The choice is all ours.

We all definitely have been through many bad days, bad moments, and bad memories but we also have passed many good days, good moments, and good memories, then why do we mostly keep thinking about all the bad things that happened in past and choose to be sad when we have the option to look for good things too. It is all up to us. The choice is all ours. So choose the way to happiness.

20 Positive Self-Affirmation

There’s real power in positive thinking. Similar to our body, our mind and soul also need healthy food every day and we all know that thoughts are the only food of the mind. Healthy thoughts give good health to your mind. So think of the below 20 positive self-affirmation as the menu of options and choose any of them every morning and say it loud to yourself. This will establish the tone for your whole day and get you rolling in a positive direction.

  1. I am happy.
  2. I am amazing.
  3. I am successful.
  4. I am strong.
  5. Today is a great day.
  6. I am beautiful.
  7. I can do anything.
  8. I am thankful for what I have.
  9. Kindness is free.
  10. I am enough.
  11. I am confident.
  12. I am the artist of my life.
  13. I have no hate for anyone.
  14. I accept that I am worthy of great things in life.
  15. I am surrounded by love.
  16. I choose to participate fully in my day.
  17. I forgive myself and others.
  18. I wake up motivated.
  19. Things are getting better.
  20. I believe in myself.

How to improve your life every day?

Hi all, I was sitting and thinking today that how much things have been improved in my life in few past years. There was a time when I used to hide from people, I was having no confidence at all to stand and talk to anyone. I was living more in my head than outside in the world. Not had many friends. Not much knowledge in anything, not even any interests. My world was very small and boring and sad too. But I am thankful and glad that I can see myself in a better place today and I am sure that tomorrow will be even more better because Improvement is a kind of a process that never ends, no matter how better you have become already there is always room available to enhance. In the few past years, I have learned new things, adopt some new good habits, and become more productive, lively, confident, and positive but still, I can see there is more I can do, and there are more changes I can bring to improve my life.

So here I am sharing today some of the ideas and practices that I think helped me to improve my life and can surely help anyone to improve his/her life too.

  • Learning

Learning is always been the very first step toward growth. You can’t grow unless you try something new. We start learning from day one when we are born. We learn to feel touch, feel hunger, feel pain then we learn to respond to our name, we learn to recognize faces, then walking, talking, education and this process of learning develops us, and it keeps going on until the last day we live. As I said in one of my recent posts that “learning is always believed to be a lifelong process and it has no age limit. If you have the will, if you are curious, then no matter what age you are you can learn anything and you can explore new avenues anytime” So never stop learning make yourself curious to learn new things it will always grow you up.

In a few past years, I have started to learn writing first when started this blog page, then I started to learn the Spanish language, then I learned things related to my profession, and now I am learning to swim and I know there are more things ahead I am eager to learn.

  • Habits

Habits have a big role in anyone’s life. They set a whole lifestyle and create a big difference in character depending on how you choose or make your habits. Having good habits leads you to a good lifestyle and keeping bad habits give you negative result always. So, it is important to give proper attention to what you do, how you live, what you eat, and how you treat others. Any habit that seems bad must be replaced with a good one. If you have a bad habit of sleeping late and it will put an impact on your health and you must change it. If you have a bad habit of eating junk you should think about it and push yourself toward healthy food. A few months back I do have this bad sleep habit, Movies and web series kept me awake till late at night like 2 or 3 am, and slowly I started to realize I was not getting enough sleep and felt tired and sleepy always then I push myself hard to fix my sleep cycle. I took one of my friend’s help who goes to the gym in the morning and asked him to wake me early morning and take me with him. At first, I missed every other day but it worked. Now I have realized that eating junk food is another bad habit that I need to fix. I will work on it.

If you think you don’t have any bad habits to work on you can always add up new good habits like exercising, meditating, reading books, and more listening and less talking. Yes, listening is also a very nice habit. Changing or making any habit takes time but the key is to be constant and make it routine it will change not immediately but one day definitely.

  • Positivity

If you are one of those who always think about only negative outcomes of any circumstances then you must know one thing that, negative thoughts always create a barrier if you want to make a way you must think positive. Positive thinking makes a positive lifestyle and a positive lifestyle always leads you toward great things. If negative thoughts are taking over you, try shifting your focus and collect all of the positive thoughts possible together and visualize them. Having a positive mind requires a positive environment too. Try staying around people who will lift you up and help you see the bright side always. I know staying positive in any situation especially when you are grieving or experiencing serious distress can seem impossible but, it is important to at least try and take the pressure off of yourself and find a little bright light.

I have faced that time personally when I was stuck in a negative mind. I always keep doubting myself and thinking about all that can go wrong. But when I realize this within myself, I start looking for the first clue which is “WHY?” once I found out why I always think undesirable I took some action. I cut off from a few people who seem not healthy being around, then I took help from some self-help books, then one of the most important things was Acceptance. I learned to accept the situation and everything that is not in my control.

Today I can say that I am a whole positive mind but that doesn’t mean I have nothing negative inside me. We cannot rid of negativity but we can keep practicing to stay positive on top of that. 

  • Gratitude

Express your gratitude for the people, moments, or things that bring a little piece of joy or some kind of comfort will defiantly help you to cut the stress and see the good side always. It also helps improve self-esteem. Take time at least once a day maybe before bed to think about all the good things that happened in the day and be grateful. Being thankful makes you a humble person and a better human being. By practicing this, you will see the change in yourself that will be taking you toward becoming a better person every day.

I am also practicing this to blend it into my natural habits. I have seen sometimes that when you express gratitude to someone or something when you be thankful for anything, you spread peace and kindness around you. You will be agreed with this quote that I often use “One Smile Creates Thousand More”.

  • Self-Love

Self-love is key to accepting yourself as you are. It is a state of the unconditional support, self-care, and compassion you give yourself that eventually results in good health, great self-esteem, happiness, total balance, and well-being. When you hold yourself in high esteem, you are more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well. You should start caring for yourself, your health, your mind, your body, and your soul. Your happiness comes from within you. If your mind is upset you can’t be happy, and the same scenario with your body, health, and soul if any of this is not well you can’t feel well too. If you are living happily and you achieve peace of mind it will become easier to take your life in the right direction and make the right decisions.

As for practicing self-love I usually advise myself “care less but care more”. Care less about the society around. Care less of any small things that will not matter at all in the coming 5 years or maybe the next 5 days. But, Care more about yourself. Your mental peace, your health, your self-esteem, and your happiness are way more important than any of the dramas in life.

I am hoping these practices will help you in some way to improve your lifestyle and well-being.♥

Letting Go Of The Baggage Of The Past

You can not climb up to the top of the mountain by carrying heavy baggage with you. And, you can not walk miles on road by lifting weighty luggage on your shoulder. The weight on your shoulder will break you down eventually. This is true, Right? Then how can you be supposed to walk your life with that emotional or mental baggage of your past that you are carrying for a long? The baggage of guilt. The baggage of mistakes. The baggage of pain, heart brakes. The baggage of regrets, and so more. The burden of this baggage will bend you down and will stop you to move forward in your life and before it completely breaks you down you must load it off and let it all go. Leave every guilt, every regret, every pain, your past behind and move forward unloaded. The lessons from the event that happened in past are only supposed to be carried along, rest everything should be left behind.

The next question is HOW TO LET IT GO? Well, I am sure if you have ever been stuck with this baggage or if you are still in this situation you may someday at some moment have tried to let it all go but, no matter what you do to leave all this behind, the past keeps following you around and make everything more difficult with the time. So here are some tips for letting go of your baggage, once and for all. Hopefully, this advice will help you leave your past behind, and lead you to a healthier life.

Learn From Mistake

Saying this is easy than doing it, but learning from the past can help understand things better. Take some time to reflect on your past and see what wrong had happened and learn from your mistakes to make things better ahead. Once you know the reason it will make moving on much easier.

Let Yourself Feel Sad

Sometimes baggage sticks around because you never let yourself deal with it. In other words, you never let yourself get super angry, or ridiculously upset. If you haven’t done either yet, do yourself a favor and get emotional. Crying is cathartic, so let it all wash out.

Practice Acceptance And Forgiveness

Acceptance is the first step to letting go and setting yourself free. Accept your circumstances and remember that none of these define you. Set yourself free by accepting that whatever happened, it happened for some reason, and forgive yourself if you were the reason. If that happened by mistake then accept the mistake, if you did it on purpose then accept that too and it will make forgiveness easy and help past to let go.

Have A Positive Outlook

Having a positive outlook toward anything makes a whole big difference in things around you. This practice will help you overcome negative thoughts. Once you start to think positive and as you go through this whole process it will really help you see the positive outcomes of life and you will find leaving your baggage of the past behind becomes so easy for you.

Getting rid of that baggage could be harder for individuals depending on how much load they are carrying on, but it is possible and it can be done by practicing the above practices and self-care. It may take some time, some work, some insight, or sometimes even the help of a therapist if the problem has become worst but if you do it right you will start to feel better. This baggage is unnecessary and unhealthy so just let it go.

The more you let go, the more you feel free and light. The more you feel light, the more mile you walk and the higher you climb.

Let’s Be Hopeful

Let’s have hope that things are better ahead. That everything will be alright. Let’s have hope that there is a rainbow always above our heads. That the tough time is about to pass. Let’s have hope that we are strong to stand against any challenge in life and we can conquer the sea by ripping the waves. Let’s have hope that tomorrow is a new day and a fresh start and the pain that we are suffering with will be vaporized with the very first ray of the sun. Let’s have hope that we will achieve our dreams for sure. Let’s have hope and stick to it and carry it along with us every day because at last, it will be the only thing that will help us to see the light in the dark, that will help us to stay for a little more longer when we feel like giving up. Let’s have hope and be hopeful.

A little note to yourself

We get disappointed very easily if don’t see any single person standing by us, who believe in us. But you know what is the biggest disappointment? The biggest disappointment is when even we don’t stand by ourselves, when even we don’t believe in ourselves.
Don’t wait for others my friend, it is you who can make anything possible for yourself.
Start believing in yourself. You can do it.🙂👍🏻

“When life gives you the spotlight, Dance it out”

A chance, a situation, or a perfect moment for we all keep looking to do something we want to do, to grab something we like to catch, to showcase something we are excited to exhibit. Yes, the Opportunity is what I am talking about today. Sometimes we work to create opportunities for our self and sometimes we wait for the opportunity to knock on our door. In both cases, we must be prepared and ready to catch the chance when it comes. Only waiting and working from them doesn’t help in grabbing the opportunity. I have seen many people including myself, that they keep looking for a perfect opportunity through their life to put their step into something they want to, but when the time comes in real, they get hesitant and doubleminded about taking the step. So many times I personally felt like I was not fully prepared to enter a new room when the door opens in front of me. I wanted this opportunity to show up but I didn’t prepare myself well enough to move forward confidently. My head got full of thoughts and all negative. So many doubts took place around me and made me feel a bit scared. I often lose my chances just in thinking and processing all that thoughts. And, what I understand now is that it only happens when we wanted to do something or to be something perfect. We don’t want to get fail. We don’t want to look stupid in the audience. So when the spotlight highlights us on the stage of life our throat starts to get dry and hands start to shake, and our legs start to take steps back to get hide behind the curtains. We keep missing opportunities in all these doubts and thoughts starting with “What if”. What if I fail. What if I couldn’t make it. What if people laugh at me.

After losing so many opportunities in times and then letting myself sit along with the feelings of regret when time flew, I now have learned to jump into every possible opening without thinking twice. It is better to feel fail than feel regret. I use the famous phrase “Now or never” every time I get a new opportunity in front of me to experience.  And you know what, even a few things don’t work out as what I have planned or thought, I still get a settlement with myself that I at least have tried. At least I got to know what had happened. I don’t let myself be trapped in a box of imagination that what would happen if I had that chance? No more feelings of regret.

I say now that, when life gives you the spotlight, dance it out. Don’t let the opportunity go. Always be prepared, always be ready to show your best move when you get your chance.

If You Ever Feel Your Sky Gray, Read This.

Hello family! I hope you all are doing great and living happy, if somehow today is not a good day, this post might help you to find your way to your smile.

I know somedays sun doesn’t rise bright and warm instead it hides behind clouds and it feels like a little gray. We don’t feel like getting up from bed and getting dressed. We don’t feel like going out or talking to anyone. We keep finding a corner to stay unaccompanied, trapped in our minds. I know that all because I feel the same somedays. And surprisingly sometimes I don’t know the reason at all behind all those lousy feelings. I know it happens with you too.

A bad day only stays as long as you let it be. So what do I do when I feel my sky gray?

The first thing I do is to remind myself that “it is just a bad day, not a bad life” It helps me to diverse my thoughts and make me realize that everything will be fine.

The second thing I do is push myself to get up from bed. Believe me, it feels hard at that time but if you make you do it, you are halfway there.

The next thing I do is that I grab any of my hobbies. If you like listening to music, play some happy song or the song that makes you dance. Just don’t play any melancholy song or song that matches your vibe in that phase. If you like to paint try some painting, play with colors. Hobby keeps you busy and it helps you to change your mental state.

If you don’t feel connecting with your hobby or if you don’t have one then the other best thing is to go out for a walk. And while walking pay attention to every single thing you see on your path. A street light lamp, A Tree, Flowers, Dogs, Traffic, Buildings, Talking People, Playing Kids, etc. Anything. And try to praise them or give any compliment. No, you don’t need to say it loud, just say it in your head. This always works for me. When you praise or give compliments to others, you always find beauty in them and it makes you feel good seeing a beautiful thing around you. It automatically brings a smile to your face.

The next thing I do is try to talk to someone beloved. It always helps when you talk and share about what you are feeling. It unloads the baggage from your shoulder and makes you feel light and relaxed. If you don’t want to talk about your feeling, don’t worry, just simply talk about anything it works in the same way.

AAh… I already feel good now. 😊

So if you ever feel your sky gray just try these things I am sure you will find your blue sky back.

Remind yourself: It is just a bad day, not a bad life.

Push yourself to get up and move your body.

pick your hobby and make yourself busy in it.

Go out for a walk and give compliments to the world.

Talk to your beloved, share your load. It will always soothe you.

Remember there is always a sun behind those dark clouds and it will shine your day as soon as the cloud fades.

I hope this will help at least someone to deal with those bad days or lousy moods. I will feel glad if this helps.

Please add your thoughts in the comment so I can get more ideas to practice in such phases and also to get others now when they are in need.

Thank you for reading, Stay happy always.

Learning to detach – From the book “Tuesdays with Morrie”

¡Hola Amigos!!! Hoping you all are safe and doing well. Last week, I was reading this wonderful book “Tuesdays with Morrie” by the author Mitch Albom. The book is about sharing some really great and deep pearls of wisdom about life, by a dying man to one of his old students Mitch. They met each other every Tuesday, and Morrie shares his powerful words of wisdom and some life lessons. I don’t know if you have already read this book or not but if not, I will strongly recommend you all to read this. I believe you will find it astonishing. My today’s post is to share my feelings or can say a few thoughts on one of the topics discussed in this book “Detachment”.

On one of the Tuesdays, while discussing emotions, Morrie told Mitch that how and why learning to detach is important. However, Morrie was the person who always talk about experiencing every moment in life even good or bad. But, this time he was talking differently. He is saying to detach yourself from the experiences. It was strange for Mitch so, when Mitch gets confused about this he asked to explain and in reply Morrie said:

“Detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it .”

“Take any emotion–love for a woman, or grief for a loved one, or what I’m going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions–if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them–you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the
pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.”

How thoughtful it is, no? This whole conversation gave me a reason to stop and think about what exactly Morrie is trying to teach here. We all have a habit of holding onto our past, our problems, pains, grief, regret, anger with friends, family, or any other beloved, but happiness. isn’t it? I feel that. If we go through a rough time we keep holding onto the pain of it and stay in grief for long. but oppositely, if we go through any happy moment we live that moment for the time and then we move on. Why does it take so long to move on from the pain like it is not going to end ever? I think because we don’t allow ourselves to move on. we do not allow ourselves to experience any other emotions when we are depressed. But, on the other side, we let our happiness be compromised with any other negative emotion so easily. If you are happy and someone calls you bad, you immediately get angry or sad but if you are sad and someone tells you nice things, then you do not get in a happy mood. I am sure if you take a pause and give it a thought, you will find the same.

If we hold back any of the emotions we would never be able to walk ahead in life. Life goes on and so we should. Things happen, good, bad and it keeps coming and going away. If today is bad, it is ok to feel sad, to cry, to feel pain but holding it till tomorrow makes your tomorrow bad too. I don’t know much about you but for me, I really need to practice learning to detach from not only bad emotions but good too.

I hope you will find this helpful too. Looking forward to your thoughts on this or any other topic from the book “Tuesdays with Morrie” if you have read it already. Have a great day every day!

Morrie and Mitch – Source: google images