la Vida Es Bella!!!

Life is beautiful for those who know how to live. Who appreciates every small gesture of the universe and every tiny detail of this world. Who allow themselves to stay open to see the beauty of the world outside and the world inside them. Who let their heart feel every single emotion and let it be familiar with every single feeling. Who absorbs all the love they receive and drives away hatred from their hearts. Who smile wide and laugh aloud when they are happy and cry all tears out when sad. Who do not keep their emotions inside themselves but shed them all without any shame. Who remember that they are not yet dead, and live like the one who still breathes. They know how to behave like a living human being instead of living as dead by strangling their emotions, their feelings, their dreams, and their lives. Who knows that life is meant to be lived, life is beautiful for them.

Once you learn to admire the beautiful gift of life, life will start admiring you back and you will be able to see how beautiful this life is.

la Vida es Bella!!!

A few minutes with my childhood

After I don’t know how many decades I lived a few minutes with my childhood today.

I used to watch stars for hours when I was a child. Whenever there was a power cut during the summer nights, I used to go to my terrace and lie on the folding bed and stare at the stars for a long time, and sometimes I fell asleep while watching them. Many times I would get to see shooting stars and on seeing them I used to make wishes. It was such an innocent time and undoubtedly the best too.

I am again on my terrace today watching the same stars but this time I rarely can see them. Only a few of them are twinkling today. The polluted air and the city lights made them fade and almost disappeared. It is hard to see those stars now but the feel is same as I am still a child and awaiting for the shooting star to make one more wish, a wish to go back in my childhood for just a day.

I wish I could take a picture of the sky but it was just a black image in the camera. But you’ve all been through this age and feelings so you can probably imagine what it looks and feels like.

A little note to yourself

We get disappointed very easily if don’t see any single person standing by us, who believe in us. But you know what is the biggest disappointment? The biggest disappointment is when even we don’t stand by ourselves, when even we don’t believe in ourselves.
Don’t wait for others my friend, it is you who can make anything possible for yourself.
Start believing in yourself. You can do it.🙂👍🏻

Blessed are the weird people…

I loved this post by Muriel!!! Take a read

View from Over the Hill

SON RAFI, HIS BEAUTIFUL CHANDRA, AND ME

My San Francisco kids visited at Xmas. It turned out to be a White one and Rafi, Chandra, and grandson Remy loved walking in the snow. (It doesn’t snow in S. F.) On one of their many excursions, they passed a sign in my neighbour John’s window. Rafi, of course, had to take a photo of it.

John is one of those special, interesting and multi-talented individuals who is interested in everything and everyone. It’s a pleasure and a privilege to know him, but what I like best about John is his kindness to others — including me.

I first saw John acting onstage when I was writing a column covering the arts. Aside from that his photography is so beautiful, if I had any more room on my walls, I’d try to purchase one from him if he’d sell it. What else…

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Self-Comparing

Comparing with others gave me nothing but misery and put me in a state where I start to doubt my capabilities and strength. I start to destroy my confidence and that means I was not just destroying the confidence but my life too. I feel small in front of a more capable, more confident, more successful society always ready to scar with their razer-sharped words coming directly from their contaminated thoughts.

I can tell now that there was a time when I couldn’t speak a single word in front of people. I was unable to make conversation with anyone. I always saw other people superior to me in terms of knowledge, confidence, appearance, status, money, looks, etc and etc. My mindset was different. I was an under-height skinny boy in my younger age. Shy, away from the crowd, hardly matched thoughts with others. It has been really hard for me to find a like-minded person and to make friends. I never know what people were thinking but in my mind, it always sounds like they don’t like me around them. I was not a fish of their pond. This all made me feel leftover most often. I always see others and think I wish I would have more friends to hang around like them. I wish I would have a better body and look. I always felt depressed when I start comparing things I have with things others have. When I compare how different I am from others. Always depressing when I compare myself with any others. Every human being or every creature on the earth has different abilities, talents, and capabilities, has different interests and inclinations, has different lives, perspectives, and circumstances. By understanding this, I was able to understand that it is a fool’s work to compare himself with someone other who is thoroughly different in every aspect. It changed my life now. When I understood this I stopped doing comparisons with any others and pushed myself to come out of my comfort zone and at least try to face my all fears. I changed myself because I knew I have space to improve myself. I start to compare myself with my past-self only. I have made progress in everything, knowledge, speaking with strangers, making conversation in groups, blending in with my surroundings, appreciating myself as I am, and working to become better. Instead of being depressed now, I feel proud when I see all those changes in my life. Selfcomparing gives a new perspective and a vision to see real changes, real achievements.

So I guess now that the only way to compare myself is that, I compare myself with only me. The one Me in the past. I should ask questions to myself that how much improvement I have made within myself in all those years of my life? What I have achieved till the date today? Have I become or at least near to become or working to become what I have planned 5 years ago? Am I a better person than I was before? Those are the real questions I am going to ask myself to compare where I have reached so far, to find my achievement in my own life and if there is someplace where I haven’t improved or gotten worse I would know what mistakes I have done and what I need to be done to get better in those areas as well. This new perception has given me new eyes to look at myself and see all the improvements. How better I have become. How confident I am now. How successful I am now.

“The best way to compare is by comparing yourself with yourself. Selfcomparing is the only way to see the progress in you”

Tamanjeet Singh

Welcome me on Twitter

Hello everyone,

I created an account on Twitter last week and am amazed to see the kind of reception from fellow writers and like-minded people. In less than a week I’ve built relationships with 60+ good people there so far. The people are really supportive and kind. Hope to meet you there too. Excited to use this new platform to share my words and connect with new people around the world.

Follow me there!!!

Tip for practicing self-care! #2022

Q.- Are there ways you maintain a work-life balance?
A.- The best way to maintain a balance between your work and personal life is to schedule things out. I have got the habit to update my calendar for my personal events and time off and the same way I block my calendar for my work. And since I have adapted that habit I can see this helping me balance my life pretty well.

Q.- How do you deal with stress or burnout?
A.- Well, with the whole lot of things going around us these days stress is common. Covid-19, losing Jobs, out of savings, and who have jobs they have stress with workloads. To deal with the stress I always choose to listen to good music old, retro classics, and jazz. They really soothe me. Walking and workout are other good options to choose from since I realize that I hardly move from my bed since the work from home has started. So by realizing that, I also started to take a few minutes’ breaks in every couple of hours. It really helps me out to calm down.

Q.- How do you stay positive in your life?
A.- I try to see, to find a good in every possible situation. Being grateful towards everything I have, I am surrounded with, I am capable of, has helped me a lot to find a reason that everything that happens around me or in my life must have some good purpose. And, also I try to be around people who are like-minded. And one more thing I recently acknowledged that, paying compliments to others, praising the beauty of people, nature, or anything you see gives you such great feelings of being happy from inside.

I hope you all are doing great in your life. Let me know if you find any of the shared tips helpful, I will be glad to know.

Also, let me know if you have something to ask I will be glad to answer. And also, tell me in the comment section that, how do you practice self-care?

Take care and have a happy 2022!!!

“When life gives you the spotlight, Dance it out”

A chance, a situation, or a perfect moment for we all keep looking to do something we want to do, to grab something we like to catch, to showcase something we are excited to exhibit. Yes, the Opportunity is what I am talking about today. Sometimes we work to create opportunities for our self and sometimes we wait for the opportunity to knock on our door. In both cases, we must be prepared and ready to catch the chance when it comes. Only waiting and working from them doesn’t help in grabbing the opportunity. I have seen many people including myself, that they keep looking for a perfect opportunity through their life to put their step into something they want to, but when the time comes in real, they get hesitant and doubleminded about taking the step. So many times I personally felt like I was not fully prepared to enter a new room when the door opens in front of me. I wanted this opportunity to show up but I didn’t prepare myself well enough to move forward confidently. My head got full of thoughts and all negative. So many doubts took place around me and made me feel a bit scared. I often lose my chances just in thinking and processing all that thoughts. And, what I understand now is that it only happens when we wanted to do something or to be something perfect. We don’t want to get fail. We don’t want to look stupid in the audience. So when the spotlight highlights us on the stage of life our throat starts to get dry and hands start to shake, and our legs start to take steps back to get hide behind the curtains. We keep missing opportunities in all these doubts and thoughts starting with “What if”. What if I fail. What if I couldn’t make it. What if people laugh at me.

After losing so many opportunities in times and then letting myself sit along with the feelings of regret when time flew, I now have learned to jump into every possible opening without thinking twice. It is better to feel fail than feel regret. I use the famous phrase “Now or never” every time I get a new opportunity in front of me to experience.  And you know what, even a few things don’t work out as what I have planned or thought, I still get a settlement with myself that I at least have tried. At least I got to know what had happened. I don’t let myself be trapped in a box of imagination that what would happen if I had that chance? No more feelings of regret.

I say now that, when life gives you the spotlight, dance it out. Don’t let the opportunity go. Always be prepared, always be ready to show your best move when you get your chance.

The One – I Love The Most (Poetry)

Hello Friends !!!

The holiday season is here and I hope you all are enjoying the season with your beloved friends and families. I wish you all a very very Happy New Year and pray for your good health and wealth.

After so long I opened my old drive where I found a few poetries that I had written back in time. I thought to share one of them and here is the chosen one I have posted down. Before you start reading let me tell you that I am not any good at poetry writing but have tried my best. 🙂 Please enjoy.

The One - I LOVE THE MOST

She deserves nothing ordinary because she is so special
She has endless beauty, she is more than an angel
Her eyes filled with light, her face where moon stays
Million words I know but nothing enough to praise
I can never forget the smile she has
I can never forget the time we had
She is the world where I lost
She is the one I love the most

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She is the friend, I need throughout life
She is the strength, I need to survive
Whenever I fell, She hold my hand
I look my back, found always she stand
She is my sun, she is my star
She is my shadow I walked with so far
At least, at last, I have reached my coast
I have found the one I love the most

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She is my secret I hid from all
From her, from world, even me at all
I never imagined, not even in blur
But it apear so clear, I am in love with her
My first ever thought, my last ever dream
When she's not around, my heart goes scream
she's guest to my heart and I'm her host
She is the one I love the most
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Thank you 🙂