What happens in life after checkmate?

Life is full of possibilities and anything can happen here. Like a game of chess where some things are under your control but others are not. Sometimes you move ahead as per your plan but sometimes the opponents force you to move in a different way. Sometimes you have many paths to go and sometimes you have no other way to go. Like checkmate.

But do you know what happens after the checkmate? end of the game? No, the beginning of a new game. You collect all the peace together and start it all over again, and this time you play smart by being strong with the lessons you just learned from the game.

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5 Tips to Stay Positive When Life Gets Tough

When things start to get tough, it’s easy to start to dwell on the negative. But it’s important to remember that life can be unpredictable and there’s no guarantee that things will always go our way. So, rather than focusing on the negative, it’s important to stay positive. No matter how bad things seem, remember that there is always a chance for things to improve. Here are some tips to help you stay positive when life gets tough:

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Recognize when your mood is affected by events outside of your control.

One of the most common things that impact our mood is the events that occur outside of our control. For example, if someone close to us dies, this can have a big impact on our mood. Other events that can have a big impact on our mood are things like being stuck in traffic, being pissed by someone, facing failure in some work, or unexpected workload. Regardless of the cause, it is important to recognize when our mood is affected by events that are out of our control. This will help us to better manage our emotions and stay in a positive frame of mind.

Talk to friends and family about your feelings and how you’re feeling.

Talk to friends and family about your feelings and experiences. Let them know what’s going on in your life, and be open about your feelings. Let them help you. Talk about your experiences with your friends and family. They can provide support and encouragement. Let them know if you need to talk about anything in more detail. It’s important to be able to talk about your feelings. It can help you to understand and cope with your experiences. It can be helpful to have people who understand you and who are willing to listen.

Keep a journal to document your thoughts and feelings.

Starting a journal can be a great way to improve your mental well-being, as well as to track your progress. Journaling can also be a cathartic experience, allowing you to express your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. The journal can also be a great way to document your progress and keep track of your accomplishments. Some people prefer to write in a personal notebook, while others prefer to write on a Computer/laptop. Start writing. Even if you don’t have anything specific to say right now you can simply write down your thoughts, feelings, accomplishments, or just how your day goes.

Exercise regularly to boost your mood and reduce stress.

Exercise regularly to boost your mood and reduce stress. Exercise releases feel-good endorphins that can help improve mood and reduce anxiety and stress, not just that but it also helps you to stay fit physically and emotionally. Some physicians recommend 150 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise each week. This can include brisk walking, running, cycling, swimming, or playing team sports.

Be hopeful for the future and live in the present.

When we are hopeful for the future, we live in the present. Hopeful people are resilient and are able to see the good in situations. They stay focused on their goals and stay positive, even during difficult times. When we live in the present, we are more connected to our emotions and can calm ourselves in difficult situations. We also have more patience and can appreciate the small things in life.
The future is always uncertain, but by being hopeful we can allow ourselves to dream and plan for the future. We can live in the present and enjoy the journey, instead of worrying about the destination.

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When times get tough, it can be easy to fall into a negative spiral. Sometimes it gets worse that getting out of that dark room feels impossible or really hard. If needed please seek professional help in such a case.
Staying positive is important. One thing that you can do is to remember that things will get better. Another thing that you can do is focus on the good things in your life. Believe in yourself. This can be difficult, but it can help you to approach life with a positive attitude and, as a result, feel happier and more in control.

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20 Positive Self-Affirmation

There’s real power in positive thinking. Similar to our body, our mind and soul also need healthy food every day and we all know that thoughts are the only food of the mind. Healthy thoughts give good health to your mind. So think of the below 20 positive self-affirmation as the menu of options and choose any of them every morning and say it loud to yourself. This will establish the tone for your whole day and get you rolling in a positive direction.

1. I am happy.
2. I am amazing.
3. I am successful.
4. I am strong.
5. Today is a great day.
6. I am beautiful.
7. I can do anything.
8. I am thankful for what I have.
9. Kindness is free.
10. I am enough.
11. I am confident.
12. I am the artist of my life.
13. I have no hate for anyone.
14. I accept that I am worthy of great things in life.
15. I am surrounded by love.
16. I choose to participate fully in my day.
17. I forgive myself and others.
18. I wake up motivated.
19. Things are getting better.
20. I believe in myself.

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How to improve your life every day?

Hi all, I was sitting and thinking today that how much things have been improved in my life in few past years. There was a time when I used to hide from people, I was having no confidence at all to stand and talk to anyone. I was living more in my head than outside in the world. Not had many friends. Not much knowledge in anything, not even any interests. My world was very small and boring and sad too. But I am thankful and glad that I can see myself in a better place today and I am sure that tomorrow will be even more better because Improvement is a kind of a process that never ends, no matter how better you have become already there is always room available to enhance. In the few past years, I have learned new things, adopt some new good habits, and become more productive, lively, confident, and positive but still, I can see there is more I can do, and there are more changes I can bring to improve my life.

So here I am sharing today some of the ideas and practices that I think helped me to improve my life and can surely help anyone to improve his/her life too.

• Learning

Learning is always been the very first step toward growth. You can’t grow unless you try something new. We start learning from day one when we are born. We learn to feel touch, feel hunger, feel pain then we learn to respond to our name, we learn to recognize faces, then walking, talking, education and this process of learning develops us, and it keeps going on until the last day we live. As I said in one of my recent posts that “learning is always believed to be a lifelong process and it has no age limit. If you have the will, if you are curious, then no matter what age you are you can learn anything and you can explore new avenues anytime” So never stop learning make yourself curious to learn new things it will always grow you up.

In a few past years, I have started to learn writing first when started this blog page, then I started to learn the Spanish language, then I learned things related to my profession, and now I am learning to swim and I know there are more things ahead I am eager to learn.

• Habits

Habits have a big role in anyone’s life. They set a whole lifestyle and create a big difference in character depending on how you choose or make your habits. Having good habits leads you to a good lifestyle and keeping bad habits give you negative result always. So, it is important to give proper attention to what you do, how you live, what you eat, and how you treat others. Any habit that seems bad must be replaced with a good one. If you have a bad habit of sleeping late and it will put an impact on your health and you must change it. If you have a bad habit of eating junk you should think about it and push yourself toward healthy food. A few months back I do have this bad sleep habit, Movies and web series kept me awake till late at night like 2 or 3 am, and slowly I started to realize I was not getting enough sleep and felt tired and sleepy always then I push myself hard to fix my sleep cycle. I took one of my friend’s help who goes to the gym in the morning and asked him to wake me early morning and take me with him. At first, I missed every other day but it worked. Now I have realized that eating junk food is another bad habit that I need to fix. I will work on it.

If you think you don’t have any bad habits to work on you can always add up new good habits like exercising, meditating, reading books, and more listening and less talking. Yes, listening is also a very nice habit. Changing or making any habit takes time but the key is to be constant and make it routine it will change not immediately but one day definitely.

• Positivity

If you are one of those who always think about only negative outcomes of any circumstances then you must know one thing that, negative thoughts always create a barrier if you want to make a way you must think positive. Positive thinking makes a positive lifestyle and a positive lifestyle always leads you toward great things. If negative thoughts are taking over you, try shifting your focus and collect all of the positive thoughts possible together and visualize them. Having a positive mind requires a positive environment too. Try staying around people who will lift you up and help you see the bright side always. I know staying positive in any situation especially when you are grieving or experiencing serious distress can seem impossible but, it is important to at least try and take the pressure off of yourself and find a little bright light.

I have faced that time personally when I was stuck in a negative mind. I always keep doubting myself and thinking about all that can go wrong. But when I realize this within myself, I start looking for the first clue which is “WHY?” once I found out why I always think undesirable I took some action. I cut off from a few people who seem not healthy being around, then I took help from some self-help books, then one of the most important things was Acceptance. I learned to accept the situation and everything that is not in my control.

Today I can say that I am a whole positive mind but that doesn’t mean I have nothing negative inside me. We cannot rid of negativity but we can keep practicing to stay positive on top of that. 

• Gratitude

Express your gratitude for the people, moments, or things that bring a little piece of joy or some kind of comfort will defiantly help you to cut the stress and see the good side always. It also helps improve self-esteem. Take time at least once a day maybe before bed to think about all the good things that happened in the day and be grateful. Being thankful makes you a humble person and a better human being. By practicing this, you will see the change in yourself that will be taking you toward becoming a better person every day.

I am also practicing this to blend it into my natural habits. I have seen sometimes that when you express gratitude to someone or something when you be thankful for anything, you spread peace and kindness around you. You will be agreed with this quote that I often use “One Smile Creates Thousand More”.

• Self-Love

Self-love is key to accepting yourself as you are. It is a state of the unconditional support, self-care, and compassion you give yourself that eventually results in good health, great self-esteem, happiness, total balance, and well-being. When you hold yourself in high esteem, you are more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well. You should start caring for yourself, your health, your mind, your body, and your soul. Your happiness comes from within you. If your mind is upset you can’t be happy, and the same scenario with your body, health, and soul if any of this is not well you can’t feel well too. If you are living happily and you achieve peace of mind it will become easier to take your life in the right direction and make the right decisions.

As for practicing self-love I usually advise myself “care less but care more”. Care less about the society around. Care less of any small things that will not matter at all in the coming 5 years or maybe the next 5 days. But, Care more about yourself. Your mental peace, your health, your self-esteem, and your happiness are way more important than any of the dramas in life.

I am hoping these practices will help you in some way to improve your lifestyle and well-being.♥

Let’s Be Hopeful

Let’s have hope that things are better ahead. That everything will be alright. Let’s have hope that there is a rainbow always above our heads. That the tough time is about to pass. Let’s have hope that we are strong to stand against any challenge in life and we can conquer the sea by ripping the waves. Let’s have hope that tomorrow is a new day and a fresh start and the pain that we are suffering with will be vaporized with the very first ray of the sun. Let’s have hope that we will achieve our dreams for sure. Let’s have hope and stick to it and carry it along with us every day because at last, it will be the only thing that will help us to see the light in the dark, that will help us to stay for a little more longer when we feel like giving up. Let’s have hope and be hopeful.

Self-Comparing

Comparing with others gave me nothing but misery and put me in a state where I start to doubt my capabilities and strength. I start to destroy my confidence and that means I was not just destroying the confidence but my life too. I feel small in front of a more capable, more confident, more successful society always ready to scar with their razer-sharped words coming directly from their contaminated thoughts.

I can tell now that there was a time when I couldn’t speak a single word in front of people. I was unable to make conversation with anyone. I always saw other people superior to me in terms of knowledge, confidence, appearance, status, money, looks, etc and etc. My mindset was different. I was an under-height skinny boy in my younger age. Shy, away from the crowd, hardly matched thoughts with others. It has been really hard for me to find a like-minded person and to make friends. I never know what people were thinking but in my mind, it always sounds like they don’t like me around them. I was not a fish of their pond. This all made me feel leftover most often. I always see others and think I wish I would have more friends to hang around like them. I wish I would have a better body and look. I always felt depressed when I start comparing things I have with things others have. When I compare how different I am from others. Always depressing when I compare myself with any others. Every human being or every creature on the earth has different abilities, talents, and capabilities, has different interests and inclinations, has different lives, perspectives, and circumstances. By understanding this, I was able to understand that it is a fool’s work to compare himself with someone other who is thoroughly different in every aspect. It changed my life now. When I understood this I stopped doing comparisons with any others and pushed myself to come out of my comfort zone and at least try to face my all fears. I changed myself because I knew I have space to improve myself. I start to compare myself with my past-self only. I have made progress in everything, knowledge, speaking with strangers, making conversation in groups, blending in with my surroundings, appreciating myself as I am, and working to become better. Instead of being depressed now, I feel proud when I see all those changes in my life. Selfcomparing gives a new perspective and a vision to see real changes, real achievements.

So I guess now that the only way to compare myself is that, I compare myself with only me. The one Me in the past. I should ask questions to myself that how much improvement I have made within myself in all those years of my life? What I have achieved till the date today? Have I become or at least near to become or working to become what I have planned 5 years ago? Am I a better person than I was before? Those are the real questions I am going to ask myself to compare where I have reached so far, to find my achievement in my own life and if there is someplace where I haven’t improved or gotten worse I would know what mistakes I have done and what I need to be done to get better in those areas as well. This new perception has given me new eyes to look at myself and see all the improvements. How better I have become. How confident I am now. How successful I am now.

“The best way to compare is by comparing yourself with yourself. Selfcomparing is the only way to see the progress in you”

Tamanjeet Singh

Learning to detach – From the book “Tuesdays with Morrie”

¡Hola Amigos!!! Hoping you all are safe and doing well. Last week, I was reading this wonderful book “Tuesdays with Morrie” by the author Mitch Albom. The book is about sharing some really great and deep pearls of wisdom about life, by a dying man to one of his old students Mitch. They met each other every Tuesday, and Morrie shares his powerful words of wisdom and some life lessons. I don’t know if you have already read this book or not but if not, I will strongly recommend you all to read this. I believe you will find it astonishing. My today’s post is to share my feelings or can say a few thoughts on one of the topics discussed in this book “Detachment”.

On one of the Tuesdays, while discussing emotions, Morrie told Mitch that how and why learning to detach is important. However, Morrie was the person who always talk about experiencing every moment in life even good or bad. But, this time he was talking differently. He is saying to detach yourself from the experiences. It was strange for Mitch so, when Mitch gets confused about this he asked to explain and in reply Morrie said:

“Detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it .”

“Take any emotion–love for a woman, or grief for a loved one, or what I’m going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions–if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them–you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the
pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.”

How thoughtful it is, no? This whole conversation gave me a reason to stop and think about what exactly Morrie is trying to teach here. We all have a habit of holding onto our past, our problems, pains, grief, regret, anger with friends, family, or any other beloved, but happiness. isn’t it? I feel that. If we go through a rough time we keep holding onto the pain of it and stay in grief for long. but oppositely, if we go through any happy moment we live that moment for the time and then we move on. Why does it take so long to move on from the pain like it is not going to end ever? I think because we don’t allow ourselves to move on. we do not allow ourselves to experience any other emotions when we are depressed. But, on the other side, we let our happiness be compromised with any other negative emotion so easily. If you are happy and someone calls you bad, you immediately get angry or sad but if you are sad and someone tells you nice things, then you do not get in a happy mood. I am sure if you take a pause and give it a thought, you will find the same.

If we hold back any of the emotions we would never be able to walk ahead in life. Life goes on and so we should. Things happen, good, bad and it keeps coming and going away. If today is bad, it is ok to feel sad, to cry, to feel pain but holding it till tomorrow makes your tomorrow bad too. I don’t know much about you but for me, I really need to practice learning to detach from not only bad emotions but good too.

I hope you will find this helpful too. Looking forward to your thoughts on this or any other topic from the book “Tuesdays with Morrie” if you have read it already. Have a great day every day!

Morrie and Mitch – Source: google images

Marry Ann-“Ugliest woman in the world”

She is Marry Ann Bevan who was known as the “ugliest woman in the world” but when you know her life you’ll call her the “most beautiful person in the world.”

Marry Ann was born in London, in 1874, she had an ordinary life as a young girl. She married a man named Thomas Bevan, and had four children. After some years of marriage, Marry Ann was hit with a rare disease named Acromegaly due to which she had abnormal growth and facial distortion. After the death of her husband, she was left with no breadwinner in the house, accumulating debts and the financial needs of her 4 children. She decided to enter the humiliating contest titled “ugliest woman in the world” in the hope of winning the prize money which could help her family and she did win. Later she was hired by a circus, which was a “freak show”. She toured different cities where people came to laugh and humiliate her and would call her ugly names. She endured the ridicule of others to raise her children and give them a better quality of life. Marry Ann kept working until she died in 1933.

Many of you might see this as just an ordinary story but for me, it is really inspiring. It takes a lot of courage to stand in the spotlight facing people ready to humiliate you for your look, for your dress, call you with ugly names and all on your face. If our eyes could see souls instead of bodies, Mary Ann would have been the most beautiful woman in the world. Isn’t it?

I would lo to hear your thoughts if any you want to share.